Saturday, July 25, 2015

Advice?


 Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already arrived at my goal, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me.
Philippians 3:12

If you want advice on parenting, you've come to the wrong blog. I'll help you shop for gluten-free stuff all day long. Seriously: all. day. long. If you come to my hometown, and don't mind shopping with two kids, I'll even take you shopping.

But I won't give parental advice unless specifically asked for. Why? Well, one major reason: I'm not the mother to your kid. I'm not saying that to shirk a duty; what I mean is that You know your kid. You are the one that is there for every cry, snuggle, fever, giggle, and poopy blowout. Not me. I'm up every two hours with my own lil chitlin, and what works for my kiddos may not work for yours.

Also, speaking of that, the second that I tell you that Solution XYZ worked for me - is the exact second that Solution XYZ will stop working for me. And I really just don't want to jinx myself.

But as a new mom, if I could give any advice to another new mom? It would seriously be to stay away from any mother who claims "I did this and my kids turned out great." Seriously.

Did I say seriously? Because, really I mean it: run like hell.


We all have things that we're proud that we do as a Mom: things that we think we're good at doing. But most of the time, even those moms that really do have, like, eight amazing children are the first ones to admit that they're doing so on a whole lot of prayer and coffee. I'm honored to know several families that have a clubwagon to transport their broods; and they're all - every single one of them - these beautiful, brilliant, independent, and amazing children. They're not the Duggars: Dad and Mom will occasionally yell; Dad keeps beer in the fridge; Mom keeps wine in the cabinet. (read: normal people) And when you ask them, "How do you do this? How do you keep it together?" They're first answer?

I don't.

I love that.

Because I don't either. I don't have it together. My house right now is a disaster area, and I refuse to clean because both boys are still sleeping. We're putting together our New Normal, and it's a messy process. I'm fine with that. I think most moms are.

So, if you need encouragement, I'm all about that. But if you need advice, you're going to have to come right out and ask me to help you find another cool blog. 'Cause this ain't it.



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