Tuesday, March 7, 2017

Please, Don't Pray For Me

 “What do you think? There was a man who had two sons, and he came to the first and said, ‘Son, go and work in the vineyard today.’ 29 And he answered, ‘I will not’; but afterward he regretted it and changed his mind and went. 30 Then the man came to the second son and said the same thing; and he replied, ‘I will, sir’; but he did not go. 31 Which of the two did the will of the father?”
Matthew 21: 28-31

It's the most used homilie a Christian can use. And by, "use" I mean to ad nauseam. This morning alone on Facebook, I counted 23 people asking for prayers for one reason or another. And no fewer than 12 people per post were saying "Praying!" and they toss up a few cool emojis. While there are certainly issues in our communities and our world that need prayer, the world needs fewer words, and far, far more action.

Let's just be honest: most of the time, when we say we'll pray for someone, it's really a 5 second prayer we say in our heads anyway. It's not like we're going to dedicate ourselves to fasting for 10 days, or only wear sackcloth and ashes.

Can we keep on being honest? How many times have you said you were going to pray for someone and really, it was an excuse to exit the conversation without feeling like a total jerk? How many times have you said you'll pray for someone and then totally forgot?

What I think most of us need along with prayer is someone to speak life into our situation and to our souls. Not just, "Dear God, help her with ___" We need someone to come alongside us, and use what our mouths were created to do: "Father God, (name here) is righteous, sanctified, and highly favored. She is your child, and you will always protect your children. We know that we are blessed to be a blessing...."

Get the idea?

Please. Please don't just "pray" for me or anyone. Speak some life - in that moment - speak some scripture, speak some admonishment and warning! But don't just spout out some hands emojis and call it a day. Prayer and worship are deep, heavy, real things that change Heaven, Earth, and Hell. What we bind in Heaven, what we loose in Heaven, is real on the Earth. Don't reduce it to sarcasm.

Want some ways to speak life into someone? Well, on our Facebook page (and other places if I can
figure out how to get it there) is a pdf file with exactly that: ways to use Scripture to build someone up!


  1. I totally agree, yet I find myself living this out sporadically. Thank you for the butt kicking.

    1. I do the same!! God really got my attention on it the other day with this exact same scripture. We treat prayer flippantly, and it loses its effect.